Need to trash years of trust in a single conversation? Well this is how...
I had a very unfortunate experience this evening. Someone who I had thought up to now had never lied to me, never lead me astray and always told me things point blank and honest when others would lie to comfort me lied to me, and why you ask? for a stupid joke. I used to respect her for such such honesty: being able to give it to me straight when others faultered. Now I don't know what to think. But let me start over and give you her "prank".
In the middle of me being generally nutty and retarded in attempts to get her to laugh she just blurts out "I'm gay." Now this girl has tried a million times in a half to pull my leg so I immediately thought it was bullshit. So I respond by calling her a silly rug muncher. "Seriously tim I"m coming out of the closet." No way my mind said if I give into this even for a second it will defintly end with HA! YOU SUCKER I CAN"T BELIEVE YOU FELL FOR THAT! So I play my usual disbelieving asshole and demand that she swear it's true dragging this out really long. She starts to act impatient and comments that I might not be taking it too well. So then that voice in the back of my mind ticks in (the one that girls have abused in the past) and suggests that perhaps this is for real, and if I keep dragging this out she'll just think I'm a dick and won't confide in me anymore. I mean she started talking about telling her friends and how this was bringing alot of stress on to her and her ex-bf...I thought damn I guess it's true. So I bought it she dragged it on long enough that I accepted it and coped with the fact that a girl with a staunch hetero record discovered in her early twenties she was gay. OK fine. So I crack a few porno jokes before she delves deeper into the whole issues related to this revelation I serious up and join in this conversation. It drags on for what was probably a half hour. She even urges me to talk with her ex who I find out later was in on the gag. He makes some comment about him being confused about the whole thing. Then while I was off reading a Tucker Max story, my little aim conversation tab started blinking this was waiting for me....
fairiegirl44 (12:45:34 AM): i knwo
fairiegirl44 (12:45:36 AM): and thanks
fairiegirl44 (12:46:27 AM): thanks for being so understanding
fairiegirl44 (12:46:34 AM): opps did i say understanding?
fairiegirl44 (12:46:39 AM): i meangullible
fairiegirl44 (12:46:42 AM): :-D
fairiegirl44 (12:46:44 AM): SUCKER
fairiegirl44 (12:46:53 AM): HA HA HA HA
fairiegirl44 (12:46:57 AM): HA HA HA HA HA
fairiegirl44 (12:47:07 AM): eeeew you thought i was a dike
KAGE1182 (12:47:56 AM): this was a joke?
fairiegirl44 (12:48:01 AM): :-D
KAGE1182 (12:48:07 AM): I fucking hate you
fairiegirl44 (12:48:32 AM): i rule
fairiegirl44 (12:48:44 AM): all battles are hereby declared victories for me!
KAGE1182 (12:48:44 AM): rot in hell
KAGE1182 (12:49:05 AM): seriously never talk to me again
My response although harsh I find completly justified. Is it just me or is there nothing funny about this joke at all? I mean if I'm just being some tight-wad-stick-in-the-mud who can't take a joke then click the comment button and tell me. But this kind of joke is not funny. If I had been a big enough shmuck to just blindly accept her saying she's gay and being like whoa and going out on a huge rant about how I'm glad she trusted me and this is a huge step for her in her life and blah blah blah lets hold hands bullshit then find MOCK ME! I'd laugh to if I fell for something like that so easily. But the fact that I dragged it out and made her give me some sense of serious attitude before pushing the asshole limit is just dick. Hey I could convince you my grandmather died, fuck I could even fake tears still doesn't make it funny if you fucking bought it just means I lied blantantly to your face and you believed your friend, which I guess you should be mocked for.
If god is as big a fan as irony as I know him to be he will smite her grandmother and then I will laugh at her and tell her to fuck off when she cries to me about it.
If your comment got deleted it's because you didn't leave your name. If your not a member and comment anonymously thats fine, but have some balls and tell me who your are, especially if you plan to argue. Abide by this or I delete your comment, simple as that.
In the middle of me being generally nutty and retarded in attempts to get her to laugh she just blurts out "I'm gay." Now this girl has tried a million times in a half to pull my leg so I immediately thought it was bullshit. So I respond by calling her a silly rug muncher. "Seriously tim I"m coming out of the closet." No way my mind said if I give into this even for a second it will defintly end with HA! YOU SUCKER I CAN"T BELIEVE YOU FELL FOR THAT! So I play my usual disbelieving asshole and demand that she swear it's true dragging this out really long. She starts to act impatient and comments that I might not be taking it too well. So then that voice in the back of my mind ticks in (the one that girls have abused in the past) and suggests that perhaps this is for real, and if I keep dragging this out she'll just think I'm a dick and won't confide in me anymore. I mean she started talking about telling her friends and how this was bringing alot of stress on to her and her ex-bf...I thought damn I guess it's true. So I bought it she dragged it on long enough that I accepted it and coped with the fact that a girl with a staunch hetero record discovered in her early twenties she was gay. OK fine. So I crack a few porno jokes before she delves deeper into the whole issues related to this revelation I serious up and join in this conversation. It drags on for what was probably a half hour. She even urges me to talk with her ex who I find out later was in on the gag. He makes some comment about him being confused about the whole thing. Then while I was off reading a Tucker Max story, my little aim conversation tab started blinking this was waiting for me....
fairiegirl44 (12:45:34 AM): i knwo
fairiegirl44 (12:45:36 AM): and thanks
fairiegirl44 (12:46:27 AM): thanks for being so understanding
fairiegirl44 (12:46:34 AM): opps did i say understanding?
fairiegirl44 (12:46:39 AM): i meangullible
fairiegirl44 (12:46:42 AM): :-D
fairiegirl44 (12:46:44 AM): SUCKER
fairiegirl44 (12:46:53 AM): HA HA HA HA
fairiegirl44 (12:46:57 AM): HA HA HA HA HA
fairiegirl44 (12:47:07 AM): eeeew you thought i was a dike
KAGE1182 (12:47:56 AM): this was a joke?
fairiegirl44 (12:48:01 AM): :-D
KAGE1182 (12:48:07 AM): I fucking hate you
fairiegirl44 (12:48:32 AM): i rule
fairiegirl44 (12:48:44 AM): all battles are hereby declared victories for me!
KAGE1182 (12:48:44 AM): rot in hell
KAGE1182 (12:49:05 AM): seriously never talk to me again
My response although harsh I find completly justified. Is it just me or is there nothing funny about this joke at all? I mean if I'm just being some tight-wad-stick-in-the-mud who can't take a joke then click the comment button and tell me. But this kind of joke is not funny. If I had been a big enough shmuck to just blindly accept her saying she's gay and being like whoa and going out on a huge rant about how I'm glad she trusted me and this is a huge step for her in her life and blah blah blah lets hold hands bullshit then find MOCK ME! I'd laugh to if I fell for something like that so easily. But the fact that I dragged it out and made her give me some sense of serious attitude before pushing the asshole limit is just dick. Hey I could convince you my grandmather died, fuck I could even fake tears still doesn't make it funny if you fucking bought it just means I lied blantantly to your face and you believed your friend, which I guess you should be mocked for.
If god is as big a fan as irony as I know him to be he will smite her grandmother and then I will laugh at her and tell her to fuck off when she cries to me about it.
If your comment got deleted it's because you didn't leave your name. If your not a member and comment anonymously thats fine, but have some balls and tell me who your are, especially if you plan to argue. Abide by this or I delete your comment, simple as that.
posted by -tim- at 2:54 AM
8 Comments:
yo, is nelson. i think your overreacting. it was a good joke, and to rope other people into it, like the ex, she was just pulling out all the stops. nothing beats a real good conspire-against-someone-to-trick-them gag. for me, the harsher and more in-depth the joke or prank is, i usually only pull on people that i know my relationship is so secure that no joke could harm the friendship.
ive made at least 3 huge "im moving to a diff state!" jokes with a few different crowds, i went so far as to put for sale signs on my yard, right before i go on vacation for a week, and there was the time i convinced my entire town that i had a lump on my heart that diverted blood flow away from my heart, draining my life. i realized how big it was when the principal was offering her condolences.
point being, from the little convo snippet you had, she wasnt trying to be malicious, because she was all nice and girly afterwards, which is a sign for you not to take it too seriously.
You two have been friends for a really long time, don't let this ruin it. People pull stupid shit all the time, hell one of my ex's tried to convince me that he had lung cancer.
While I understand why you are upset, you've done some pretty nasty shit to people in the past also (like the shit you said to me before christmas). Just talk to her about it and move on.
Or hey maybe your relationship w/ her really was a strong as I had thought ours was...and we see how that turned out...
Katie
How can people take the side of someone who drags a joke like that to the max? I for one am amazed. Shame on u. And to then use this as an excuse to bash him? WOW, nice black heart there
Do you even know any of the people involved? And you have no idea went on between us so you have no right to say anything.
Katie
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You tell me to get a grip and then retell a story where your friend pretended to have lung cancer. Oh thanks all better NOW I SEE THE LAUGHS TO BE HAD! CANCER YEAH!!! ALRIGHT! And katie I"m amazed you somehow take a topic that has nothing to do with you and you bring up us stuff. I applaud you.
But hey if these are the rules then I'll play by them but yet I doubt you'll be as quick to remark "oh it's a joke HAHAHAHAHAHA" when I do it.
But whatever a guy can't admit to having emotions or feelings or even say that maybe they were hurt without being called a pussy or a fag. But when a friend abuses your trust it's no little thing.
Tim, I just wanted to tell you i am genuinely sorry. I mean it was meant to be a joke, and while i wouldn't necessarily listen to nelson on many topics... he was right, i only kid with you cause that's what we do and that i really value ur friendship and know i could come to you with serious things (whether ur gonna ever believe me again is up to you). So please don't look at this simple joke as a malicious attempt at fucking with our friendship... let's just say it was a response to seeing poop sex first thing in the morning for a year.
Trust me, there will be a response.
and you won't miss it.
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